sexuality for the self-obsessed
October 9, 2006 by Cash
Confidence and self-esteem are both hallmarks of a healthy man.
According to a new study however, crossing the line into full blown narcissism has a significant effect on one’s perception of sex and their ability to remain monogomous.
“Narcissists have a heightened sense of sexuality, but they tend to view sex very differently than other people do,” said Shrira.
“They see sexuality more in terms of power, influence and as something daring, in contrast to people with low narcissistic qualities who associated sex more with caring and love
Another facet of the study showed that narcissists tend to view sex’s purpose more in terms of pleasure than forging a deep connection with their partner.
The highly narcissistic were 50 per cent more likely than the more humble to view the primary purpose of sexual intercourse as enhancing their own physical pleasure, rather than increasing emotional intimacy with their partner.
Too much love for the man in the mirror apparently means less love for everyone else.
I know someone with a Kitchen Aide Mixer… It’s real nice.
I see myself with strong narcissistic tendencies, but definitely associate sex with emotional intimacy and love.
“The study also found that they are more likely to philander and dump their partners for they’re looking for a ‘better deal’.”
This has been my experience with narcissistic men. But from my experience this narcissism usually evolves from a love scorned. My friend and I were debating this one night because men have the stereotype of wanting to screw anything that walks by them in a short skirt, but it’s really not like that. I think just as people who have gotten picked on in their childhood, when men have their heartbroken, they feel they have to overcompensate for something that they feel is lacking. Look at how us women handle breakups, we tell ourselves that it is his loss and that we’re the shit and no one can touch us. That’s how guys do it too, but many of them go to the extreme and develop these strong “self esteems”.
For many of them, their high self confidence comes from fear of all that is different. If you’re afraid of something, you risk getting hurt. It’s an ignorance thing. They start to feel that they’re the shit and want others around them just like them. It’s the whole mentality that is behind racist and sexist groups.
So with all that said, I do feel that narcissistic men can associate sex with emotions and love, but only when they realize where their narcissism is coming from. I think so many of us have issues when it comes to sex and relationships that when we don’t address them before getting into a relationship or sexual encounter, it can cause a lot of harm to both parties.
Sorry I can go on and on about this seeing as this is what I studied in school: MALE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR! And again these are my opinions….