Sex: The Forgotten Art of Kissing
November 8, 2006 by Greg
A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.
~ Ingrid Bergman
Once the dominate discussion amongst my teenage peers, kissing was soon forgotten when intercourse became the new frontier. It’s as if that which was debated and detailed to great extent was no longer important. The idea of just making out was passe.
Kissing is a connection. It communicates non-verbally the intention of two souls. The key to a great kiss is being present in the moment. It is simultaneously an act of understanding, leading, reacting, communicating, and experimenting.
Asking your partner is your best clue into what kind of kiss makes her feel passionate and what awakens her. Not only is this a verbal conversation, but one complete with interaction and demonstration. When asking your partner what kind of kiss she considers passionate, arousing, comforting, etc, ask her for a demonstration as well. This a fun experiment for both parties.
Kissing is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases.
~ Chinese Proverb
To get started thinking about kissing again, here are a few ideas.
Forehead
This is executed by coming into a kiss straight on. Typically a kiss requires asymmetrical postures to avoid bumping noses. Instead of cocking your head when you come in, come in straight forward, gently press foreheads together and softly gaze into each others eyes.
The Absent Kiss
Instead of actually kissing, the lips get close enough to almost kiss but do not follow through. This is an act of building tension and encouraging playfulness. With both mouths in the open position place your bottom lip or top lip in between hers. When she goes to close her mouth for a kiss pull away. You are too dangerously close to not kiss, but somehow it’s avoided.
Gentle Nibbling
Instead of pressing your lips into her, keep a slight distance between your mouths. You’ll be using just your lips. Gently close your mouth bringing the lips together producing a slight nibbling effect, gently pinching whatever is between them. Use this to gently nibble her upper and lower lips.
Breath
With your lips embraced, and mouth open, breath out before finishing the kiss. The throat gently constricts creating a soft ‘haaaa’ noise. The throat constriction is very important because it changes this from a burst of air, into a warming elongated passionate breath. This kiss communicates passion and sexuality.
If you are ever in doubt as to whether or not you should kiss a pretty girl, always give her the benefit of a doubt.
~ Thomas Carlyle
Kissing Links
I remember the days of junior high where the ultimate conquest was ‘french kissing’ a cute girl.
Gawd the awkwardness and butterflies of waiting by soccer field for Jennifer to arrive to commence our prearranged smooching.
My how times have changed, and the simplicity of a kiss, sans tongue, can evoke even more passion and intrigue, depending on those sharing it.
Good tips; my only additional advice? Don’t let over-analysis ruin the spark of spontenaety.
Sometimes it’s best to just close your eyes and let the magic happen.
True that cash on all points. French kissing is so funny!
The absent kiss is my favorite to do to a guy because you can see how riled up they get when you know the only thing they want is you
A french kiss is pretty fun too when you’re in the heat of passion because no one is paying attention to what they’re doing. Hands are all over your partner and your bodies are moving in unison. Tongues down each other’s throats can be kinda fun then 
ah kissing!
greg, i wondered on over here after you posted the link in the comments to travis’s poem about kissing.
i, like raquel, enjoy the absent kiss most of all for it’s ability to function as a teasing mechanic. especially if my boyo is any bit too eager, i can slow him right down, put him in his place, with an absent kiss.
kissing is wonderful and fun and happy. thanks for sharing your thoughts ^_^