Sex: How to Have Better Sex

The new year is upon us and just a few days in you may find yourself without a goal.  This year I suggest committing to becoming better at sex.  After all, it’s something you will probably enjoy doing the work for.  While sex is a complicated subject with many different definitions of just what it is that makes better sex, here are three simple ideas to inspire you.

First, start by increasing your exposure to sex.  This can be accomplished in a variety of methods.  You can read erotic blogs, watch online porn, download a sex podcast or buy a book off amazon.  It doesn’t matter the medium in which you are acquiring the information, just expose your self to more sex related material.  The more you are exposed to sex, the more it will be on your mind, and the better it will become.

Second, explore yourself.  To truly be good at sex you should be good with yourself first.  Commonly masturbation is a self discovery made at a young age, practiced till perfection, and only slightly changed thereafter.  After only a few years of experience, the routine becomes the same.  This year toss it up.  Experiment with new techniques, use different hands, add a lubrication, buy a toy, or even do something as small as changing the time of day.  Use the opportunity to learn more about what turns you on, how to lengthen your orgasm, or delay ejaculation.

Lastly, have more sex.  The best way to get good at anything is to practice.  Regardless of where you are in life, make an effort to increase the amount of sex you are having.  If you are without a steady partner, go out on more dates.  Find a partner you are comfortable with that you can explore sexuality together.  If you are already in a committed relationship, set a time with your partner and make a commitment to each other to have more quality sex.  Practice and talk about your experiences, learning and growing together.

Like all goals and resolutions, it’s about commitment and follow through.  Make up your mind that better sex is your goal, and stick to it till you see it completed.  Here’s to better sex for everyone!

Greg is an Urban Monarch contributor with a keen eye on his goals.