Scheduled Sex

Wired sex guru Regina Lynn proposes we take the online tradition of scheduling sex offline. Being the productivity nerd and sexually charged individual that I am, I identify completely.

In fact, scheduling sex — not just time to be together with the understanding that sex might arise, but actually saying “we will start nookie at 9 a.m. Saturday” — is so taboo, some couples refuse to do it.

It’s not just about setting aside time for sex, it’s also about making it a priority.

Maybe my disconnect is with the term “scheduling.” Maybe if I rephrased my question and asked, “Do you make it a priority to take time out for sex, rather than just expect it to happen any old time?” the answers would be different.

Finally, the last benefit that I think most men can relate to…

“I can come up behind her on a day that’s not a ’sex day’ and she knows I’m cuddling, kissing or fondling because I love her and want to be close to her, not because I’m trying to get her to have sex,” writes the Sex Drive reader.