poll: the text message break up
May 14, 2007 by Cash
I’ve never agreed with the idea of breaking up with someone via text message, but as they become more ‘legitimized’ as a means of communicating, maybe my viewpoint is old school.
What do you think?
Is it ever okay to break up via text message?
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I voted in the third person.
communication is such a tricky and easily messed up thing. anything less than face to face doesn’t work for me. the relationship is a face to face interaction. out of respect to her as a person i should have the guts to end it in person, and i’d hope the otherside would do similar if roles were reversed.
I think the only time it’s “OK” is if you’ve already exhausted every other method of communication.. but at that point, it’s probably moot.
Almost every modern convenience that we’ve got associated with technology.. email, text messages, voicemails, IM’s… hell, even snail mail, is not 100% guaranteed to get to where you want it. The only way of reliably communicating something is to actually talk to them.. by phone or in person. Anything else is lame!
p.s. I did once consider breaking up with a girl who had gone on vacation by taping a break-up note to her door for when she got back. I was also 17 at the time
Breaking up with someone in person is so much better than over the phone or via text message. Yes, it’s harder, but in the long run, you owe them that much respect at least if you can’t even try to make it work or talk to them about your problems. If you really want it to be over, do it in person.
Talking to someone in text form allows you to say anything that’s on your mind sometimes, because you don’t have to worry about vocalized wrath. So I guess it’s nice to say what’s on your mind, but I also think that communicating in text form could make the communicator be braver than normal (AKA stupid) and say something that might be a little too forward than they meant or something that’s too premature. I think if you can’t break up with someone in person, then you’re a coward and that’s what it boils down to.
My girlfriend ended our two year relationship with a text message out of nowhere. I would have been heart broken regardless but the coldness and disrespect of being broken up with in such a manner made the break up so much more painful and damaging than it had to be. If I had been given the proper respect of a face to face break up or even a phone call I could have probably maintained a friendship with my ex who was my bestfriend also, but I feel nothing but anger and regret when I think of her now and I probably always will.