How to Call a Girl
April 4, 2007 by Greg
Occasionally a girl gives me her phone number. From time to time, this happens to us all. This post isn’t about getting the number or what to do after she meets you, it’s simply about making the call. For this call, it’s also assuming the worst with contingencies for the best. It’s assuming that she may have given you her number, but may be doubting whether that was a good idea given the state of alcohol in her blood stream.
Step 1
Text her right away, or at least within the first few hours. This may go against conventional dating wisdom advising you to appear scarce. While this may work, I’ve found this approach to be more open. By maintaining open communication you are letting her know that you are a cool guy who is now a part of her life. A simple “Nice meeting you” works fine.
Step 2
Call her within two days. Chances are she’s not going to answer. This is why you have a prepared default voicemail (nod Cash). Think of this like an elevator speech. It’s something quick, just a few lines, that you’ve said enough times that it comes out both easily and confidently. I could write a separate article on the perfect voicemail, but here are two quick tips: Leave your number and make it vague as to whether or not she is supposed to call you back. Mine is…
“Hey, This is Greg, 505-555-5555, I’ll talk to you soon”
You’ll need a neutral non-date activity planned that you can invite her to come along too. This is crucial because while she may not answer, if she does, you better be ready to follow through. If you’re reading this site, you’ve probably picked up enough interests that you could have engaging activities every night of the week.
Step 3
Give it a day or two baiting her to return your phone call. If you left the message right, she doesn’t know whether or not she’s supposed to call you back. This is the sort of thing that girl talk is made of.
If she doesn’t answer your second call, it’s time for a second voicemail. Allude to the cool plans you have later in the week, but don’t give specific details. This dangles the idea of a fun time in front of her and baiting her more to want to hang out.
“Hey, there is this cool new restaurant my friend is opening, we’re going to check out, give me a call back”
Damage Control
If she doesn’t call back, pretend it never happened. Give it a few days and send her a text while your out doing something cool, or call her when you only have a couple minutes to chat because you’re about to go into the concert/winetasting/new lounge. If nothing comes of it, slowly demote her to the low priority queue.
After all, you did get another number from the cocktail waitress at the restaurant you’re friend just opened right?
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I’m still on the fence about texting right away, but may have to try it a few times before deciding.
Texting the same day/night has increased my % of number responses greatly! I get a shit load of numbers, and have a very busy life. I almost never have time to sit and have a conversation on the phone but i can find time to send txts all day. The girls who txt me back are the ones i stay in touch with and end up fitting in to my schedule.
This probably works better with younger girls. I am 25 and usualy date 22-25 year olds so they are all constant txters, I assume older women may not do it as much.
Either way from experience just waiting 2-3 days then calling has not lead to particularly good results unless the approach and your attraction game were amazing, and even then the girl will be annoyed u had so much fun and then waited 2 days to get in touch.
The same night text is the best she goes to bed thinking of you!