How Feminism Destroyed Real Men
November 2, 2006 by Glenn
The Daily Mail has a controversial editorial arguing that the feminist movement destroyed “real men.”
Suddenly, women wanted to drive home their newfound equality by moulding men to be more like them.
This velvet revolution was reflected in a series of broader cultural changes. After decades of uncompromising movie heroes like Marlon Brando and Clint Eastwood, we were asked to fall for stuttering, floppy-haired fops like Hugh Grant; touchy-feely and hopelessly embarrassed around women.
I found this interesting because it’s the second time I’ve heard this viewpoint. The first was on the recently-reviewed Enlightened Seduction Way of Men & Women DVD. Zan says…
The whole idea behind the equality movement is for men and women to recognize that they are equal. But somewhere along the way it got warped into the notion that men and women should become the same. The result of the movement is sameness, not equality. That’s the problem.
Perhaps there’s a grain of truth — strive for equality, not sameness.
Very well put Glenn.
I love this quote in the article…
I am a true feminist, because I only want to be with a powerful and capable woman. No sexist could cope with having a wife as intelligent and independent as mine.
But he’s way off with this shit…
Real men don’t pretend or even try to understand women. They simply love them for being the mysterious, capricious creatures that they are. And they don’t take them too seriously, either. They know the vicissitudes of the female mind, its constant insecurities and the fluctuations in mood.
And really turns into a prick with this quote…
Last Christmas, my wife threw me out after discovering I’d been cheating on her. On the night we got back together, I made strong, passionate love to her. Unfaithful as I’d been, I was not going to let her have me over a barrel for the rest of our marriage. I needed to keep a sense of self and not allow her to mire me in guilt and a desperate quest of forgiveness.
Seriously, this guy is an asshole not a role model.
While I will agree with the comments above and say this guy is an asshole, I do have to say he does have a valid point:
“…women secretly long for a man with swagger, who is cocky and selfassured and has the cheek to stand up them and make fun of their feminine foibles.” I have been the girl in the relationship with the guy who will not stand up to me and it’s not fun. It’s so flipping boring. Maybe this is just me, but I love someone who exudes confidence and will not necessarily “put me in my place,” but will help me realize when I’m being irrational.
One major problem I have with this article is his definition of a “real man.” A real man in his eyes is a total alpha male. Total misogynist, sexist pig. While I want someone who is sure of himself, I don’t want someone who is going to make me tell him he’s the boss after he cheats on me.
There is a fine line there where you have arrogance and asshole tendencies versus what I consider being a real man. I think a real man is someone who is in touch with his emotions, feelings and surroundings. Someone who is considerate of others around him and how his actions/words affect the world. I’m not saying he’s overly sensitive and thinks a lot about what is going on around him, but just is aware of the world around him. Someone who will stand up for what he wants and know what he wants. Someone who won’t be threatened by a strong woman or her past, her present or her future.
Again, these are my opinions
“Deep down, women love men who stand up to them, who won’t be pushed around. They love men who will look them in the eye and tell them to shut up when their hormonal bickering has become too much.”
“While men want an argument to make sense… women solely want the argument itself: it’s a pressure valve for their emotions, and once they get started there is no stopping them.”
“The female orgasm is the natural mechanism by which men assert dominion over women..”
Glenn— Why would you read something like this? It hurts.
“Glenn— Why would you read something like this? It hurts.”
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i know i’m a little late in posting, but i just had to say:
wow. that guy has that deadly combo of no balls and an enormous ego. his poor “warrior” wife.
rooting around for information about his wife, i found an article in which she sought help for her troubled marriage. turns out that her husband (the author) is basically financially dependent on his wife, whom he cheated on six times last year.
real man? not so much.
take his advice in light of his fucked up personal life?
mmmmm. nah.