Enlightened Seduction - The Way of the Natural Product Review

I want to start off by saying you’ll need an open mind if you’re going to read this review. The product is definitely outside what mainstream society finds “acceptable,” and will likely offend some of you. With that said…

Some men appear to be naturally good with women (for a real-life example, hang out with Urban Monarch contributor Sifu). They easily flirt, make women laugh, and have a certain charisma about them. If you approach one of these guys and inquire about how to be better with women, he’ll usually shrug and say, “I don’t know… just be yourself.” But we all know that answer isn’t much help.

Everyone assumes that some guys get lucky and are born with it, while the rest of us have to watch from the sidelines. You’ve either got it or you don’t.

But Zan has a different viewpoint. He believes these men, so-called “naturals,” aren’t born with the ability to flirt with and seduce women, they learn it. And what one man can do, so can another.

Deciphering the mindset of a natural isn’t easy, but that’s what Zan has attempted in the first disc of his “Way of the Natural” DVD series. He outlines ten traits that all seducers throughout history have embodied within their daily lives — from Casanova to George Clooney.

For example, the first trait is “They are all his girls.”

He has immense compassion for women. He sees their sadness, their loss, their faded dreams. He makes it his mission to impart beauty into their life again. He does this with every woman — including the 60-year-old waitress who’s serving him eggs for breakfast. He makes that waitress shine, he makes her feel pretty. He makes her feel alive and inspired again.

They are all his women.

Zan is saying that a natural seducer doesn’t pick and choose who he flirts with — he’s charming to all women. He simply takes joy in brightening a woman’s day and making her feel good about herself.

Another trait is “He never kisses and tells, ever.”

He feels no need to validate himself to other men by bragging about his exploits. His encounters with other women are never about bolstering his self-esteem or adding another notch to his bedpost — it is all about respect. This is because he’s not interested in taking something, but in sharing something with her. A woman that trusts you enough to open her heart, emotions, and body, is something that’s very profound. It can never be taken lightly.

Other traits focus on challenges from women, body language, and what women mean when they say “a man needs a sense of humor.”

Overall I found the disc very entertaining and informative. You can sense that Zan has a real compassion and love for women — he’s not out to manipulate and use them. Adopting the “mindset of a natural” would give the vast majority of men a radically different way of interacting with women — a way that results in more happiness, playfulness, and trust.

I’ll be reviewing Zan’s second DVD in the series, “The Way of Men & Women,” next week. The DVDs are available for individual purchase or as a set from Zan’s Enlightened Seduction website.