In all the time I’ve spent studying socializing and ‘pick-up’ one thing that really stands out is the importance of a first impression. 
Countless ‘experts’ point out that once you’ve been perceived as creepy/weird/etc there’s no going back.  You can never recover from making a woman feel uneasy the first time she meets you.
I’m not here […]

I’m an opinionated ass. It’s a responsibility I take very seriously. One of the opinions that’s been pissing my friends off en masse lately is this: Jessica Alba getting pregnant has totally turned me off.
I’m not saying I could never, ever imagine having my wicked way with her.
She would just have to […]

I love you.  I do.  All 30,000 of you reading this.   However, I want to start seeing other people.  Mainly, your friends. Since, I’m feeling a little experimental today, I’m going to ask for your help with that.  I’m asking you to tell someone you know about urban monarch.  Tell them about your favorite […]

I often result to calling my friends by the first thing that pops in my head.  Usually what comes out are things like dude, dog, or homey.  I’m beginning to become aware of how just down right stupid this is.  I’d start calling everyone “friend-o” but I think I have to wait another 3 years […]

Don’t be that guy who uses any phrases that involve, “that guy.”

Usually when I return from my departures from the city, I send out a blast text message to all my friends to let them know I’m back.  This last time though, I’m taking a more gradual approach. 
Upon landing, entertaining the idle time while taxiing to the gate, I pulled out my cellphone and sent text […]

Throughout high school, I was fascinated with the occult. I spent plenty of time surrounded by ouija boards, tarot cards, and books galore on subjects like numerology and wicca. It probably didn’t hurt that many of the cute gothy girls I had eyes for were aspiring witches themselves.
One element of wicca and spellcasting I found […]

I’ve never been a big believer in Valentine’s day as a ‘real’ holiday, and even if I was, it’s unlikely I’d spend much money on it.  The most romantic things in the world are always home brewed.  Naturally, ’society’ disagrees with me, and most men this year will shell out around $164 for the ‘big day’.  Losers.

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A couple of years ago, I received a package of birthday goodies from an incredibly thoughtful ex of mine.  Amongst the treasures was a large clutch filled with samples of my favorite cologne.  At the time, I had two regular sized bottles on hand, so the bag ended up forgotten in a drawer. 
During my move, […]

Long time UM ally and Christian Bale stunt double Goat forwards an interesting piece on the male:female ratio in one of the sexiest cities on earth, Rio.
If there ever was a place for single males to visit it’s the Brazilian beaches of Rio: for every 100 ladies in the city there are a mere 86.4 […]

Perusing BBC’s 100 things we didn’t know last year, I stumbled upon this gem on attraction.  According to a study by New York University, it’s all about the motion.
The team carried out a series of studies involving over 700 participants who were shown a variety of animations and videos of people moving.  Some showed shadow […]

Leave it to UM friend and Las Vegas impresario Jack Colton (UM interview here) to bring this little gem to my attention.  “The Bank”, a new club in the former home of Light (r.i.p Light.. what a fun venue) @ the Bellagio opens on New Year’s Eve.  You commoners can attend via “general admission” pricing for $250. 
Those wishing […]

Denver has a good reputation (in my opinion) for several things.  First, we’re one of the fittest cities in the country.  Also, we’re one of the drunkest.  Now, (perhaps as a corollary to that last bit), we’re also the most ‘lustful’, at least based on some data from ACNielsen.

Residents of these metros enjoy vigorous sex lives–at […]

The main dilemma Greg and I are facing for New Year’s is trying to make up our minds. There are plenty of incredible options in Denver for ringing in 2008. Two in particular that we’re weighing heavily? A live performance by Rabbit In The Moon (do a YouTube search for live […]

After a few seasons greetings and holiday parties, most everyone is in the mood for a good romp. Why not try the position that was clinically proven to satisfy 75% of it’s samplers?
The lateral coital position is a sex position described by Masters and Johnson in their Human Sexual Response. The position was preferred […]

I’m currently deep in the mud of planning my first spa themed holiday party.  Instead of the usual egg nog and cookies, I’ve decided to offer those invited a piece of relaxation.  Of all the resources I’ve found online, the DIY network has had the most impact.
The event’s primary focus is creating a spa-like, tranquil […]

I received plenty of kick ass gifts for my birthday.  Some, I can openly talk about (Johnnie Walker Black gift set, complete with JW tumblers?  Hell yeah).  Others, um, I can’t.  But one late arrival on the scene has proven both addictive AND an excellent analogy for a key element of seduction.  Keeping it in […]

I was pleasently surprised to find a copy of the Authentic Man Program’s “Foundations of Inner Game 1: The Power of Presence” in my mailbox for review.  The product is a 3 DVD set that breaks “inner game” (i.e. your mindset, belief system, etc) down into three important areas, each given an entire DVD’s worth of […]

Talking, obviously, is a cornerstone of socializing.  However, simply keeping your mouth open more can make a big difference in people’s perception of you.  Lance Mason, seduction-svengali and founder of Pick Up 101 has an interesting DVD product out called “Physical Confidence” that addresses this issue.
In it he explains the complex interaction between physiology and […]

An amazing Saturday night at one of my favorite clubs here in Denver has me thinking about the differences between a lounge and a nightclub.  In addition to the obvious difference of a dancefloor, I think nightclubs offer a richer experience overall.  Considering the audio / visual stimulation, as well as increased energy and hot girls […]

According to a new study, 87% of men and women aspire towards being in a monogomous relationship (defined as “being in a relationship with one person at a time”).  Communication was cited as the most important factor in maintaining one. 
Although the source on this is a press release from a diamond company, I’d still say it rings true.   […]