Comments on: Best of 2006: Fashion for Geeks - Why bother? http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/ Advice for a generation of men raised by women Mon, 08 Sep 2008 17:47:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Shenna http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2805 Shenna Sun, 31 Dec 2006 05:50:48 +0000 http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2805 I love style and it is important to me, don't get me wrong. But as I've gotten older, I've realized that I don't really care for being judged so much on how I look. I now have a better understanding of why people don't always look like they stepped out of a catalog. AND I really appreciate variety in people's style. I like the fact that there are geeky-looking geeks...or even geeky-looking studs! What I'm really trying to get across is that, I think, if you've reached a point in your life where you know how people judge you, based on what you're wearing, and it's a pretty accurate assessment, then OWN IT! Don't dress up for the hot chick you think you'll get out of it. Maybe you're not the type of guy who would even really like "hot chicks". Maybe you'd be way happier with a geeky chick who likes your geeky style! In which case, the wasted time, money, and mental anguish, probably aren't worth it. I'm also not saying that personality is the ONLY thing that matters. I, sure as hell, don't want to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to. Waking up to a beautiful face? Uhhh, good luck. Only if she's been awake for a couple hours before you;) Personality is probably going to play a big role in whether or not you see her as beautiful in that scenario, believe it or not. The catch-22- Dude: *Boohoo* I can't get hot chicks because they're all so superficial, and judgemental, and caught up in how I look. I have to spend all this extra time and money to attract a woman. THEN Same Dude: Whoa whoa whoa! I can't be with an woman who doesn't dress well, and look good! I don't care how cool she is. I guess, everyone should just look hot all the time. Then everyone would be happy and it would be so easy to tell who you were really attracted to and why (?). I dunno, I keep forgetting that if you're a geek and you're reading this, you probably aren't the type of geek who is cool with staying a geek and dating geeky chicks. My bad. I love style and it is important to me, don’t get me wrong. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I don’t really care for being judged so much on how I look. I now have a better understanding of why people don’t always look like they stepped out of a catalog. AND I really appreciate variety in people’s style. I like the fact that there are geeky-looking geeks…or even geeky-looking studs!

What I’m really trying to get across is that, I think, if you’ve reached a point in your life where you know how people judge you, based on what you’re wearing, and it’s a pretty accurate assessment, then OWN IT! Don’t dress up for the hot chick you think you’ll get out of it. Maybe you’re not the type of guy who would even really like “hot chicks”. Maybe you’d be way happier with a geeky chick who likes your geeky style! In which case, the wasted time, money, and mental anguish, probably aren’t worth it.

I’m also not saying that personality is the ONLY thing that matters. I, sure as hell, don’t want to be with someone I’m not physically attracted to. Waking up to a beautiful face? Uhhh, good luck. Only if she’s been awake for a couple hours before you;) Personality is probably going to play a big role in whether or not you see her as beautiful in that scenario, believe it or not.

The catch-22-

Dude: *Boohoo* I can’t get hot chicks because they’re all so superficial, and judgemental, and caught up in how I look. I have to spend all this extra time and money to attract a woman.

THEN

Same Dude: Whoa whoa whoa! I can’t be with an woman who doesn’t dress well, and look good! I don’t care how cool she is.

I guess, everyone should just look hot all the time. Then everyone would be happy and it would be so easy to tell who you were really attracted to and why (?).

I dunno, I keep forgetting that if you’re a geek and you’re reading this, you probably aren’t the type of geek who is cool with staying a geek and dating geeky chicks. My bad.

]]> By: mybirthdaypony http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2774 mybirthdaypony Sat, 30 Dec 2006 04:02:31 +0000 http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2774 I am not a geek, but never cared about how I looked. Now that I am a bit older, I think fashion is a great part of my life. I think it helps express myself and I like looking good. I never realized this until one of my friends started dressing nicer. "OR maybe geeks (at least) will learn that they don’t need to be with Natalie Portman to enjoy the company of a wonderful woman. I think Natalie would agree." are you saying that personality is ONLY what someone needs to be happy? i disagree. personality is huge for me, but if i can't wake up to a beautiful face beside me every morning, i'll go nuts. i love physical aspects of beauty just as much as personality. i do like the fact that people should dress in style to their own personal specifications though. I am not a geek, but never cared about how I looked. Now that I am a bit older, I think fashion is a great part of my life. I think it helps express myself and I like looking good. I never realized this until one of my friends started dressing nicer.

“OR maybe geeks (at least) will learn that they don’t need to be with Natalie Portman to enjoy the company of a wonderful woman.
I think Natalie would agree.”

are you saying that personality is ONLY what someone needs to be happy? i disagree. personality is huge for me, but if i can’t wake up to a beautiful face beside me every morning, i’ll go nuts. i love physical aspects of beauty just as much as personality.

i do like the fact that people should dress in style to their own personal specifications though.

]]> By: Shenna http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2746 Shenna Fri, 29 Dec 2006 07:41:06 +0000 http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2746 I hate to be negative, but I don't buy it. I say, let the geeks be geeks and let the superficial, materialistic, judgemental "Natalie Portmans" find out the hard way. After Mr. GQ or Mr. Urban Outfitters cheats on her a few times, smacks her around a little, or dumps her on a holiday, maybe she'll learn to be a little deeper and see a little more clearly. OR maybe geeks (at least) will learn that they don't need to be with Natalie Portman to enjoy the company of a wonderful woman. I think Natalie would agree. But if the geeks are gonna go changing for women (under your advice), I hope there is a segment on developing one's own personal sense of style. It would be tragic for all the converted geeks to go around dressed in the same, lame, store-bought style. I hate to be negative, but I don’t buy it. I say, let the geeks be geeks and let the superficial, materialistic, judgemental “Natalie Portmans” find out the hard way. After Mr. GQ or Mr. Urban Outfitters cheats on her a few times, smacks her around a little, or dumps her on a holiday, maybe she’ll learn to be a little deeper and see a little more clearly. OR maybe geeks (at least) will learn that they don’t need to be with Natalie Portman to enjoy the company of a wonderful woman.
I think Natalie would agree.

But if the geeks are gonna go changing for women (under your advice), I hope there is a segment on developing one’s own personal sense of style. It would be tragic for all the converted geeks to go around dressed in the same, lame, store-bought style.

]]> By: mybirthdaypony http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2732 mybirthdaypony Thu, 28 Dec 2006 19:55:46 +0000 http://www.urbanmonarch.com/best-of-2006-fashion-for-geeks-why-bother/#comment-2732 real good post. real good post.

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